BY JULIAN HAYES II
Negative
emotions left untreated result in fear, anger, frustration, loneliness,
depression, and helplessness. Even the best of us wear down emotionally.
Negativity surrounds us, and over time you become like a sponge and soak up all
the negative energy around you.
No matter
what goes on around you, you’re still in control. You can’t control all the
situations around you, but you can choose how you respond to each of them.
Here are a
handful of situations where negative emotions appear.
1. The
terrible boss
I get it.
Your boss sucks. He’s unappreciative, a douche, unfair, and not as smart as
you. Quitting seems the logical choice. Yet, not everyone has that option.
When it
comes to handling your boss, you need to develop a shield that would make
Captain America proud. Don’t take the easy way out and blame your boss for
everything. Don’t be juvenile and bad mouth him or her to all your coworkers.
Take the high road and don’t slack off. Your personal brand is on the line.
Use your
horrible boss as motivation to create a better opportunity in the future for
yourself. If you must quit, research your options before doing so.
2. Annoying
coworkers
Unless you
are lucky enough to work from home or have minimal contact with people, you’re
likely to have dealt with a shoddy coworker. Coworkers can ruin the best of
situations.
From lame
water cooler jokes, to the pick up artist, to the overbearing health guru (no
one cares about your juice cleanse), coworkers are stressful.
Imagine that
your negative coworkers have the plague. It’s infectious and deadly, so stay
away from these people at all costs. Avoid them in the break room, go outside
and appreciate nature, or read a book.
3. Work is
draining
Do you work
to live or live to work?
Society is
obsessed with productivity and time is the easiest metric to measure it by. You
end up having to do more and more each day to feel like a success.
Lower your
stress and don’t get caught up in the rat race. How long you work isn’t
important. It’s about the quality of the work that you perform in the time you
have.
4. Clients
are a nuisance
Being your
own boss is awesome and rewarding. Chasing payments from people … not so much.
Instead of
seeing a bad client, view it instead as a terrible situation. Bad clients are
people who you continue to work with despite their substandard behaviors.
If you’re
losing sleep, eating extra ice cream, or dreading the meeting, it’s time to end
the relationship. It takes two to tango, so part of the blame is on you for not
taking action. No amount of money is worth your sanity.
5. News is a
waste
Eight out of
ten stories in the news are negative. Letting the news (an outside source)
invade your personal space is easier than you think. Whether you turn on the television
or read articles on the Internet, the news is filled with negativity.
Negativity sells.
When was the
last time someone donating to charity or community building was the main story
compared to the latest scandal?
Do yourself
a favor and turn the TV off and close your browser. If it’s important, you’ll
hear about it through your friends since everyone will be mentioning it.
6. Society
loves to judge
People are
quick to share their opinions on how you should live your life. Have you had
dreams of living abroad, running your own start-up, or going back to school? At
some point, you’ve heard someone say, “You’re too old,” or “You need to quit
dreaming and be realistic.”
If you let
people’s opinion influence your decisions, you’ll forever be a prisoner and
full of regret. We’re all meant to be different. Don’t be a sheep and follow
blindly. Have some belief in yourself. There is more right with you than wrong
with you despite what ‘everyone’ might say.
emotinally
affected by the world
No mater
what society tells you…You can do whatever you please
7. Friends
can bring you down
Friends, at
times, are a heavy burden and negative influence on you. Friends can
emotionally weigh you down with their problems and negative outlook on life.
You want to be there for them, but their attitude over time will start to
affect your life.
Learn to
recognize friends who make you feel blue. Separate yourself from their
problems. You don’t have to join in on the negativity and absorb their problems
to be a good friend.
8. Let go of
the comparison game
We all
compare ourselves to others. When comparing ourselves, we only see what the
other has that we want, not what they’re missing.
These people
are human just as you are. They have no super powers. They’re imperfect people
trying to figure out this thing called life, just as you are.
Let go of
the comparison and realize you’re awesome enough already.
9. Body
image issues are unnecessary
With
magazines, marketers, and shady fitness companies, it’s easy to get down on
yourself. Relying on these for your measuring stick is a recipe for disaster.
Though you
may feel terrible or tell yourself you look out of shape, thoughts are just
thoughts. The mind can be tricky at times.
Don’t let
deceptive advertising or unrealistic images determine your self-worth. Love
yourself for who you are and you’ll soon be on your way to not only a better
place mentally, but you’ll exude a confidence that will change your career and
social life for the better.
10. The past
doesn’t control you
Regret can
haunt us for years. “What if … ,” “I wish … ,” and “I should’ve … ,” are
expressed when reminiscing about the past.
Before you
are able to move ahead, you must accept the past for what it is. Embrace who
you are, treat the past as a lesson that will serve in the future to make you a
better person.
11. The
present is all that you can control
Your current
situation isn’t what you expected. Perhaps you aren’t where you thought you’d
be at this moment.
Walking
around and feeling like a failure isn’t going to bring success any closer.
Telling yourself you’re worthless and this dream life is a pipe dream isn’t
going to make you any more motivated.
Live in the
moment, appreciate it, don’t take it for granted, and don’t allow self-loathing
to enter the picture. This moment is all there is.
You can’t
change your past, but you are in charge of your present. So take control of it
and steer your future in the direction you want it to go.
12. Social
media is not as it seems
Social media
is one giant fantasy land.
Take a look
at your Instagram feed or Facebook timeline. Most likely what you’ll encounter
are pictures of people smiling and having the time of their lives. Looking at
this might make you question why your life isn’t exciting.
Here’s the
truth.
Their life
isn’t that exciting. Social media is a platform where people can pretend to be
something else by picking and choosing what to share.
Don’t fall
for this trap. Realize people use social media as a highlight reel for the best
moments in their life.
13. Just say
no to drama
It’s never a
dull moment with the drama crew. They’ll make the smallest issues into
something large.
Do yourself
a favor and cut them out of your life. The only people that deserve to be in
your circle are people who are positive and make you want to be a better
person.
14. The
people closest to us can be the toughest
Sometimes
those closest to us are the hardest people to deal with. You want to become
healthier and join a gym, while your significant other is content being lazy.
Don’t argue
with them, that’s a waste of time. Try to empathize with them and see their viewpoint,
then you can use the middle ground as a starting point.
15. Family
can be overbearing
Families can
be annoying, especially if you’re doing something outside the norm. As
difficult as it might be, you need to stick to your guns and follow through with
your goals. They have their life and you have yours.
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